What Losing People Taught Me About Choosing Them
People leave.
And when they do, it forces you to see clearly who fits in your life, and who doesn’t.
Some people were never meant to stay, and that’s okay. Life moves. People move. And through those shifts, I’ve learned a few things:
What Loss Teaches Us
Not everyone who starts with you is meant to finish with you.
Some goodbyes are quiet blessings in disguise.
Letting go doesn’t mean you stopped caring, it means you started listening to peace.
The right people bring calm, not confusion.
Energy never lies; you feel who fills you and who drains you.
People’s consistency says more than their words ever will.
You don’t have to chase connection, what’s meant for you won’t need convincing.
Protecting your peace is a form of love too.
Sometimes closure is realizing you deserve more than explanations.
Reflection: Choosing Who Stays
You notice which connections bring ease and which bring stress—who gives energy, who takes it away, and how much lighter life feels when you let go of what doesn’t belong.
Sometimes I catch myself thinking about who is currently in my life, and those who aren’t, and what that says about what I actually want around me. Every goodbye. Every ending. Each one teaches you how to choose better, softer, and truer.
Choosing who stays doesn’t make life perfect, but it makes it clearer. The connections that remain feel honest. You see people as they are. You trust your heart more.
Some people belong in your life, and some don’t. The ones who remain show you what your heart is meant to hold.
Look Inside Your Heart
Look around your heart—who makes it lighter, who makes it heavier?
Notice who’s worth your time and who isn’t.
Imagine the space you could create for what truly matters.